Encouraging self feeding

Your toddler is increasingly likely to want to feed themselves now. Here is how you can help encourage self feeding and the benefits it can bring.


From 12 months your toddler is able to eat most adult food and will enjoy joining in with family meals. Eating together is a great opportunity for your toddler to learn to feed themselves as they will want to copy what you are doing.

As soon as your toddler shows signs of wanting to hold their own spoon and feed themselves, let them. Being able self feed at an earlier age is associated with higher intakes of energy and some nutrients1. It also helps to develop your toddler's finger movements and hand-eye co-ordination. It may be messy at first but the more chances your toddler has to practise, the better. Remember to always supervise your toddler when they are eating.

Your toddler may already have shown interest in self feeding and may be experimenting with some easy, first finger foods such as rusks. Here are some ways you can encourage self feeding skills further.

  • Continue to offer your toddler finger foods such as strips of toast, small cubes of cheese, strips of cooked vegetables or pieces of fruit.
  • Try giving your toddler one spoon while you feed with the other. You can load your toddler's spoon so they can try to feed themselves.
  • Let your toddler practise self feeding with a food they can manage and will not make them gag. Thicker textures, such as fish pie or cottage pie, can be good as they will stick to the spoon for longer, giving your toddler a bigger chance of success.
  • Offer food such as peas, cubed vegetables and smaller pieces of fruit so that your toddler can practise picking up small items between their finger and thumb. Your toddler needs to have mastered this pincer grasp in order to use a fork and spoon successfully.

1 2004 Betty Ruth Carruth, Paula J.Ziegler, Anne Gordon, Kirsty Hendricks. Developmental Milestones and Self-Feeding Behaviour in Infants and Toddlers Journal of the American Dietetic Association. 104:S51-S56